Updated: Feb 16
Divorce leads to many questions that only bring dread. Beginning the process can be confusing and unpredictable. We hope we can give you some ideas about how to approach this difficult decision.
Having children as part of a divorce can be very emotional. But your focus should be about putting their well-being above anything else. Avoid doing anything out of spite. Don’t use your children as leverage, and encourage your children to have a great relationship with your spouse.
It may be tempting to do the divorce paperwork on your own but strongly consider hiring an attorney to represent you and your interests. Do not just hire any attorney. Ask a lot of questions and make your attorney’s attitude and demeanor match the professionalism you want in your case.
Have a clear and clean accounting of your financials. Divorce can get dirty and it is better to have a record of everything before anything nasty can happen between you and your partner. This means you should make copies of all your financial documents, even ones which feel obscure and unimportant- copy it.
Go over your expenses and see which ones are necessities and which are not. You will need to determine the family expenses and what will be necessary for yourself after this divorce is over. Prepare to live differently with your finances.
Do not make any decisions, especially financial, based on your emotions. This specifically applies to decisions about your children. This is the time to be wise with your money, do not make rash decisions such as moving four states away. If you feel that it is in your best interest to move away from your home and your children, then ensure to make this change positive to your children.